Changing a light bulb in my house goes something like this:
My sister, who comes to Alaska regularly as a flight attendant, is overnighting with me. She comes into a room, notices a bulb is out and says, “Did you know that bulb is out?”
I look up from whatever I’m doing and say, “Yeah, I know.”
And before I have the last syllable out, she is jumping up and down, waving her hands, “Let me guess! It’s on the list.”
I don’t say a word. I ignore her rather than acknowledge it has, indeed, been written on my daily/weekly/monthly task list since the bulb burnt out.
She flails her way to the hall closet where she retrieves a bulb. And while she changes it she does an impression of me where I:
- write “replace light bulb” on a piece of paper;
- contemplate the item on the list;
- create a plan for how to execute the item on the list, with a timetable and budget.
Then, very dramatically, she raises her arms like she’s scored a touchdown and says triumphantly, “Done. You realize it takes longer for you to plan to change the light bulb than it takes me to actually change the light bulb?”
By then my hands have started to flail because I feel overwhelmed by her energy, her speed of execution, her chaotic tornado way of being that I equate to Taz, Looney Tunes’ Tasmanian devil.
She has changed more light bulbs in my house than I have.
To hear the story, you’d almost think it was a grand master plan on my part to never change a light bulb (or the batteries in the smoke alarm, for that matter) in my own house. But if you thought that, then, you don’t know me. I really would prefer to write it on my list rather than change it when it goes out.
Somehow lists and knowing what lay ahead in my day/week/month makes me feel contentedly in charge of my little world.
I tell you this by way of explanation. I am a planner.
So when I decided to change my whole life, that took a plan too. A big, long, detailed plan with lists and spreadsheets.
I’ve read many great RV blogs from people who are fulltimers. From idea to execution the range of time I’ve seen is four weeks to one year.
So why is it taking me so long? I’ve been planning this since April 2014 and expect to be on the road in the fall of 2018. Four and one-half years. Fifty four months. Almost as long as it takes to pay off a car. While some of the decision is financial (which I’ll discuss in upcoming posts), the main reason is I just need the time to prepare. Probably equal parts mental and physical preparation.
First, knowing absolutely nothing about the life I’m about to embark on, I visualized the transition from real life to RV life would take place in three stages: research (2014 – 2015), planning (2016 – 2017) and implementation (2018). (One quick note: my time table has since changed which I will talk about in a future post.) I’ve since realized those stages don’t break up nearly so neatly in reality as they do on paper. But when I was still at the very beginning, the structure gave me something to lean on so as not to feel utterly overwhelmed by such a large undertaking.
I spent a lot of time in the last years on the computer research, pricing, reading blogs, joining forums, etc. I am filled full of knowledge that
has led me to the planning stage. Over time, I’ll share some of what I learned and discovered along the way.
I sometimes wish I was a spontaneous, easy-going person who could decide to change her life and then change it. But, alas, I am not that person. I’m the person who needs to change a light bulb first by writing it on a list. On the other hand, I feel you non-planners out there miss out on the inexplicable sense of accomplishment and well-being that comes with crossing things off a list.
Are you a planner or a pantser (fly by the seat of your pants)? What do you see as the pros and cons of one, the other or both. Join the conversation in the comments sections.
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Great insight on planning. I think (as in most things in life) a balance is important. I think you can over plan and make tasks overwhelming, that just ends up adding to the task. I also think bring a “panster” can also not prepare you for major life changes , like retirement. There is place and need for both:) I want to be a “planster”. You can have the overwhelming joy of crossing major events off or list(sometimes small tasks like grocery store items) as well as the spontaneity and drive to get things done:) I can’t wait to read more.
Linda, I love your comments. In writing there is a lot of talk about being a planner vs. a pantser, and I’ve never heard someone suggest that being a planster might be the way to go. It so insightful. No question, spontaneity is difficult for me. As I move toward making this giant change in my life, my hope to incorporate more balance and to try to copy traits I admire in others. Including, and especially, embracing all of the positive aspects of spontaneity. I’m following your lead and striving for planster-dom!
I am a planner. I love the feeling of “checking” something off my list. Sometimes, when I am especially productive, I will add the “extra” accomplishments I did that day to my to do list – just so I can cross them off!! 🙂
BTW – yes, this makes my children and husband laugh at me!
I love knowing I’m not the only one who does this. I wasn’t actually going to confess it because it is a little embarrassing but there is comfort in numbers.
A few years ago I would have identified myself as 100% pantser. But then I got married…to a planner. After almost ten years of marriage (and two cross-country do-it-yourself moves, in a U-Haul, from Alaska to Texas and Texas to New York) we have blended our styles, meeting somewhere in the middle. I’m a little more goal-directed than I used to be, and he’s a little more freewheeling. I still love the moment where you just let go of control and trust that it will all work itself out. I know that is not an easy moment for everybody, but for me there is a certain joy in the unknown, in the open road ahead. that fills me with excitement. Life in an RV sounds FANTASTIC to me! I wish you a wonderful journey to the life you envision for yourself!
As someone who knows Debbie quite well, I have up-close and personal experience with her obsession with planning. And because of that, I’ve seen how, when Debbie chooses to do a thing, she researches it until she knows more about what and how to do it, than people who have been doing that same thing for years. For example, I have always had dogs. Debbie decided to get her first dog ever (in puppy form) about nine years ago. Our dogs grew up together and were BFFs. I found that what Debbie knew about a dog’s psychology, dog parks, natural homemade food, and so much more, blew me away! Compared to her, I was a complete amateur. I learned so much from her that my (now two dogs) are much better off for it.
So when the time comes for Debbie to hit the road, I know she will be so good at that I’ll want to tag along and see how she does it. Go Debbie!!!
I loved the light bulb story. They say if you write things down they are more likely to get done!! Love, Marie
As a decision pantser and an execution planster (new words for me!) I love this post. I will make a decision working through things just inside my head, and I usually make them pretty quickly–even little ones. “I feel like taking a day off of work and driving North with the dog for a 4 day camping trip!” Great, decision made. But after that I love the research, the plan, and the list making, and the whole process makes me feel prepared and organized. Maybe I just like to think of myself as a Spontaneous Planner. 🙂
I love this. With others weighing in on this issue, I’m beginning to see the planner and pantser issue more on a spectrum than being one or the other. And I never thought of it that way before!
Great article and examples!!! I am not a planner and enjoy being sporadic in most decisions. You never know how many more days or hours you have left…. Possibly an idea from being an ER Nurse for some many years. I do know if Debbie writes it down it will get done!!!! ?
This post made me think of my life as a recreational therapist. What got drilled into us in school was something called the “APIED Process.” We start out by Assessing the situation, developing a Plan, Implementing that plan, Evaluating the progress and analysis Data collected. I don’t know a single RT who is a pantser…we are all definitely planners. 😉